Last year I started off the brand new year asking myself four questions about the year that had passed so that I could consolidate what I learned from it. I found the exercise so cathartic that I pledged it would be an annual tradition and one I think everyone should take the time to do. One of the most important aspects of life is learning from your experiences to grow, evolve, and appreciate what you have.
What are you most grateful for?
Always the same three things in my life. My husband David who is an incredible provider and stellar example of a good and decent human being. My 3 treasures, Kieran, Kalon, and Lila. Motherhood will always be the best gift I have been given. It’s also the vehicle with which I have many successes and many failures. I will never be the perfect mom but I always want to try to be the best that I can be for my children. They inspire me everyday. Our health. 2017 saw both David and I go through different health issues that were both alarming and instructive. I have always been a steadfast advocate for taking care of yourself and being proactive about prevention. This year was an absolute reminder that no matter how much you try, there are some things you simply cannot control.
What are you most proud of?
This past year was about adjusting to a whole host of “new normals”. From not having my father around to entering my 40s. Because of this, I indulged myself and spent the first half of the year dedicated to so many aspirations that had been on my forever list of to dos. I traveled the globe ticking off bucket list experiences. I trained hard and ran my first marathon and finished with a respectable time. I participated in a spiritual pilgrimage, which awakened my soul. The second half of the year was spent focused on my family as all my kids went off to school and the health concerns made their debut. I guess what I’m most proud of is finally reaching a place within myself that is content and happy. A state of Zen that I’ve never been able to achieve in my 40 years of existence. I streamlined my life and am living it as authentically as I can surrounding myself with people that only bring positivity and substance to my world.
Where did you fail and what did you learn about yourself?
I feel like failure is such a harsh word. On my journey this year, I think I failed when it came to being kind to myself. I am my own harshest critic and I get in the way of myself. This applies to everything I do whether it’s related to work, life, or my relationships. I’m not sure how to remedy this issue on my own, but I do have a few ideas for the future. This makes me excited because I always want to work on bettering myself.
What do you need to forgive yourself for?
My shortcomings. I mean who in this world is perfect right?
2017 was a rollercoaster of a year for me and it let me know that no matter how much I struggle to, I can’t control everything around me. Some things are beyond our power and perhaps that is the universe’s way of teaching me some priceless insights.