Here we are, one week into the brand spanking new year of 2016. I’ve always loved the opportunities that new years present. The chance to start fresh. To endeavor to be better. To recalibrate and start anew. 2016 marks a very poignant new chapter in my life and it is important for me to make a comprehensive list of personal improvement items that I can strive to achieve this year. Many people don’t have faith in resolutions but I think of them as a vision board for my life. Purposeful goals that are acknowledged out loud have more of a chance of fruition than aspirations kept quiet in the recesses of your mind.
Last year my resolutions were all about motherhood. This year, my purposes are all about me. As we know, you have to work on being the best form of yourself in order to be better with everyone else. With this in mind, I have three affirmations that I want to live by this year.
Live in the Moment
By nature, I’m a meticulous planner. I live my life by my lists of to-dos. This means I often live in the future. What I have to do in the next few hours, days, weeks. This includes the long lists of my family’s to-dos. This year I want to live in the moment more because if 2015 taught me anything it is that life is fleeting and it needs to be lived and appreciated in the moment. Day to day moments are what your memories are made of so the enjoyment and treasuring of these times is crucial. I have made up my mind to do things that I want to do this year so that I don’t wind up with regrets. As you get older you truly grasp the meaning behind the catch phrase life is short. Life is all about the moments and if you don’t live in them, then what’s the point?
Be the healthiest version of me
This year I want to be the fittest and strongest rendering of myself that I can be. Physically, mentally, emotionally. I want to fuel myself on nourishing sustenance, for both my mind and soul. This means full commitment to a structured regimen of wellness as well as surrounding myself with people that are positive and non-toxic. It also means being open to and exploring new and diverse avenues of life coaching for my individual betterment.
Learn to let go
Admittedly, I’m the kind of person that holds onto things. That’s the way I have always been. But now is the time that I want to learn how to be free. Keeping negative thoughts in your heart does you no good. I am a proficient forgiver but I’m not one to forget. Harboring ill will and feelings of injustice eat away at you, even if these feelings are small. This leads to festering, which is the opposite of positivity and letting go. This year I want to work on letting go so that I have more room for even more joy in my heart.
These may sound like lofty almost impossible aspirations, but that is what they are: aspirations. If I can work towards these goals even just a teeny bit each day, then I will be squarely on the wonderful path of self improvement.
This article was originally published in The Mommy Project (Amanda’s weekly Manila Bulletin column in the parenting section).